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Tips for Coping During a Divorce
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Try these tips for less stress and more peace as you move forward through the divorce process.
- Educate yourself.
Learn how divorce works in your state. Research legal aid organizations. Ask for advice from trusted friends who've been through a divorce.
- Have a plan.
Start by making a to-do list that covers areas like finances, homes, boundaries, and children. Break down the areas into small steps.
- Consider mediation.
For some couples, mediation can be more peaceful and lead to better communication than when lawyers are used. Plus, it can be cheaper, quicker, and less stressful.
- Put your children first (if you have children).
This can be hard. But your kids will do better if you keep the focus on what's best for them.
- Communicate and cooperate.
Do your best not to say bad things about each other. Talk when you're calm and use notes. If things get heated, call a "time-out."
- Let the relationship change.
Let go of old patterns. Agree to disagree. And keep the focus on what's really important.
- Take care of you.
Be kind to yourself. Pay attention to the things that bring you joy and do more of those things.
Current as of: June 24, 2023
Author: Healthwise Staff
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